There are many, many good ways to get moving when you feel stuck. Many good colleagues and I will be presenting those techniques in the upcoming webinar series from NICABM: When Clients Get Stuck. Among the 20 experts:
Tara Brach, Rick Hanson, Sue Johnson, Jack Kornfield, Peter Levine, Marsha Linehan, Pat Ogden, Bill O’Hanlon, Esther Perel, Richard Schwartz, Ron Siegel, Bessel van der Kolk. I’m delighted to be in the company of so many of my mentors.
NICABM is well-known in the therapy field for creating the most innovate and groundbreaking of seminars. Here’s the link to register for this one.
In the meantime, I’ll share with you here one of the most powerful ways I know to shift the feeling of feeling stuck. I learned this “rewiring through movement” exercise years ago from Natalie Rogers, and teach it everywhere I go. You can do this in less than two minutes and feel the shift immediately.
1. Stand up and stand still for a moment. Without even labeling feeling stuck as a feeling, simply let your body assume the posture of feeling stuck. Whether that’s a collapse or a shrinking or being rigidly frozen. Inhabit that posture for 30-40 seconds.
2. Then, without thinking or going to your head at all, simply let your body move, and let your body find a posture that is the opposite of your first posture. It might be an opening, a stretching, standing taller. But don’t try to figure out what you need to do or how you need to move; simply let your body move into an opposite posture. Inhabit that posture for 30-40 seconds.
3. Then, again without thinking or figuring out, simply let your body return to the first posture; hold that posture for 20 seconds.
4. Then let your body move back into the second posture again; hold that posture for 20 seconds.
5. Then let your body move into a posture that’s something in the middle; hold that integrative posture for 30 seconds.
6. Take a moment to reflect on your entire experience, noticing any shifts or changes.
As I wrote in my book Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being, the first time I did this exercise with my client David, he was exploring his depression and assumed the opposite of depression would be happiness. To his surprise, he learned the opposite of depression for him was reverence.
Try the exercise; trust the intuitive wisdom of your own body to get you moving again.
And if you’re so moved, check out the entire NICABM series on Getting Unstuck. Registration will close soon.