Category Archives for "Exercises"

Creating the Circle of Support You Need – Anytime You Need It

I really experienced the value of the exercise below, Creating a Circle of Support, at a time when I needed it the most. Ten years ago I chose to have Lasik eye surgery to correct lifelong near-sightedness and astigmatism. The operation was risky, so I went into the operation with understandable anxiety. I had asked […]

Expect the Unexpected…

I will be teaching the exercise below, Expect the Unexpected, in several venues this spring, all of them among the most conducive in the world for nurturing well-being as well as strengthening resilience.  You can learn new skills while recovering a great deal of ease and peace of mind: May 19-24 Kripalu Center for Yoga […]

Regrets: Cues for Compassion, Learning, Resilience

A twinge of regret yesterday – I missed meeting with a friend because I had the wrong day on my calendar. That mishap quickly repaired and the meeting re-scheduled. But the twinge lingered.  And led to memories of other regrets. The time I carefully selected a super-cool gift for a friend’s birthday, then completely forgot […]

Recovering from One of Those Panicky Moments

One of those panicky moments…in the elevator returning to my hotel room at last week’s Psychotherapy Networker Symposium, reaching for my room key card — that is not there.  My entire purse is missing!  That quick revving up in my brain – did I leave it in the restaurant?  On the couch in the lobby […]

Pruning Not-So-Healthy Relationships

I emphasize the necessity of cultivating nourishing, healthy relationships to support our resilience – a lot. [see Make Sure Good Friends Are Near] All true, very important. Sometimes, just as important, is the practice of pruning unhealthy relationships from our social circles. (Sometimes, though harder, creating a healthy boundary with unhealthy relationships in our families.) […]

Learning How to Learn Something New

A colossal number of brain cells, hundreds to thousands, are born each day, but most die within weeks unless the brain is forced to learn something new. Learning rescues these new cells from death. Then more neurons survive and sprout connections to their brethren. The harder the task, the more the survivors. – Tracy Shors, […]

Make Sure Good Friends Are Near

Back in my folk dance days, I loved dancing with friends to this song: We live out our lives, they say all alone, From the day we arrive till it’s time to go home. And it’s only just lately I’ve come to accept The grace I’ve been given in the company I’ve kept. As my […]

Choice v. Control – a Tricky Dance

It’s a tricky dance between the need to be responsible for the choices we make in our lives and the desire to control the outcome of those choices.  If we’re going to put in the effort, we want our effort to be effective. Even trickier is to recover from a disappointment or a failure, re-group, […]

Hiding Under the Covers…Resiliently

Sometimes when our world is crashing in on us or collapsing out from under us, we just want to hide under the covers and wait until it’s over.  I teach many, many tools for recovering our resilience and coping with the catastrophes and challenges of life. And one of those tools IS to unplug and […]

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