Resilience 2.0™: Compassion, Clarity, and Courage…in These Times, in All Times
The most recent events in America – the pandemic, police brutality, protests – have left many of us – at least for the moment – awash in overwhelm, feeling inadequate, in despair. Uncertain how to respond courageously, in good conscience, to the latest tidal wave of what we have always known to be the racism running through this country’s long history.
How to step up and push back against long-standing systemic racial-class-gender oppression, injustice, inequity. How to show up, reach out in solidarity and right action, re-find our moral compass, remove a failed leadership, re-build our health care system, schools, economy, and re-launch our nation in a more just and virtuous direction.
Resilience 2.0™ is one modest offering in this endeavor.
Resilience is a radical practice. Radical as in the original definition of radical – the root, fundamental, foundational. Resilience is foundational to shifting our responses to danger and life threat, to changing our world when the very fabric of that world is threatened.
I’ve had to deepen my own practice of what I’ve taught for years – that strengthening our own inner secure base of resilience allows us to cope skillfully with anything, anything at all.
I’ve turned to role models and wise teachers. [See yesterday’s post It Is I Who Must Begin.]
Ours is not the first time in history, nor the only culture on the planet, where people have had to rise like a phoenix from the ashes from ruined economies, the devastation of war and genocide, the havoc created by fires, floods, and government fiascoes.
From a stellar role model of resilience, Eleanor Roosevelt, who coped with the hardships of the Great Depression, the tragedies of World War II, and the infidelity of a husband who happened to be president of the United States.
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
Even from an inspiring moment in the cartoon Calvin and Hobbes, when Calvin trips and falls down the stairs and lands in a heap at the bottom, dazed and confused. Then he stands up, throws his arms up in the air as though welcoming applause, and say, “ta da!”
We can find our own moments of recovering from a fall, from a daze, into our own ta da! when we know how. Resilience 2.0™ teaches you that “how” that you can then apply to any cause, any organization, any difficult family member you wish to.
Last week I heard Tara Brach teach the ancient Bodhisattva prayer:
May these circumstances awaken my wisdom and compassion.
Her modern-day rendition, “How might this adversity help evolve you?”
We do learn and grow from experience. We strengthen our resilience most deeply from learning from difficult, upheavaling experiences. We live out that resilience beyond the personal self as we renew our sense of common humanity and shared belonging.
Nothing on earth is more gladdening than knowing we must roll up our sleeves and move back the boundaries of the humanly possible once more.
– Annie Dillard
I look forward to sharing the Resilience 2.0™ journey with you.