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Riding the Waves in Relationships

Riding the Waves in Relationships

This month’s posts on relational intelligence have explored skills necessary to ride the waves in relationship so that we can better ride the waves in our lives.  This week’s quotes explore the necessity – and the challenges – of that dance.

Relationship is an art.  The dream that two people create is more difficult to master than one.

– Don Miguel Ruiz

For lack of an occasional expression of love, a relationship strong at the seams can wear thin in the middle.

– Robert Brault

To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship.

– Domenic Cieri Estrada

There are days when you need someone who just wants to be your sunshine and not the air you breathe.

– Robert Brault

Don’t smother each other.  No one can grow in the shade.

– Leo Buscaglia

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.

– Rainer Marie Rilke

There are times when two people need to step apart from one another, but there is no rule that says they have to turn and fire.

– Robert Brault

Trouble is part of your life, and if you don’t share it, you don’t give the person who loves you enough change to love you enough.

– Dinah Shore

In the end there doesn’t have to be anyone who understands you.  There just has to be someone who wants to.

– Robert Brault

Happiness is having a dream you cannot let go of and a partner who would never ask you to.

– Robert Brault

The roots of resilience are to be found in the felt sense of being held in the mind and heart of an empathic, attuned, and self-possessed other.

– Diana Fosha

Remember, we all stumble, every one of us.  That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.

– Emily Kimbrough

Once you find someone to share your ups and downs, the downs are almost as good as the ups.

– Robert Brault

Basically, the only thing we need is a hand that rests on our own, that wishes it well, that sometimes guides us.

– Hector Bianciotti

Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.  “Pooh!” he whispered  “Yes, Piglet?”  “Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw.  “I just wanted to be sure of you.”

– A.A. Milne

Ah, the comfort,

The inexpressible comfort

Of feeling safe with a person.

Having neither to weigh out thoughts

Nor words,

But pouring them all right out, just as they are,

Chaff and grain together;

Certain that a faithful hand

Will take them and sift them;

Keeping what is worth keeping and,

With the breath of kindness,

Blow the rest away.

– Dinah Craik

A Life for a Life, 1859

In the best of relationships you have two people who cannot think of anything that was not part of the deal.

– Robert Brault

People change and forget to tell each other.

– Lillian Hellman

A relationship will eventually turn love inside out.  And the test is whether you can love from both sides.

– Terri Guillemets

Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.

– Robert Brault

In the end who among us does not choose to be a little less right to be a little less lonely.

– Robert Brault

So often the end of a love affair is death by a thousand cuts, so often its survival is life by a thousand stitches.

– Robert Brault

As important as shared memories is the silent agreement that certain things never happened.

– Robert Brault

Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is some who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.

– Oprah Winfrey

Without a single thought, two hands collide and the world finally makes sense again.

– Kayla Dawn

If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say?  And why are you waiting?

– Stephen Levine

Then clasp my hand with closer hold,

True hearts are never unconsoled, –

They fear not care, nor cloud, nor cold,

And smile at growing old!

– Elizabeth Chase Akers, “November” 1873

[Many quotes in this post are from Robert Brault, a wise American writer whom I have quoted many times over the years.  rbfrault@blogspot.com]

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