Self-Acceptance – Everything Else Falls in Line
A practice essential to emotional intelligence is self-acceptance. Becoming aware, allowing, and being with every emotion we feel – dreadful or delightful – as contributing to who we are, how we experience ourselves, and how others experience us. [see posts Becoming Fluent with Your Emotions, Managing Emotions, Not Flooding, When Emotions from the Past Trip Us Up Now for practical tools in managing these emotions.
May these quotes inspire you to accept yourself fully and gratefully, especially on days you’re feeling “less than.”
The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.
– Mark Twain
The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
– Carl Rogers
This revolutionary act of treating ourselves tenderly can begin to undo the aversive messages of a lifetime.
– Tara Brach
Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.
– E.E. Cummings
What self-acceptance does is open up more possibilities of succeeding because you aren’t fighting yourself along the way.
– Shannon Ables
You can’t build joy on a feeling of self-loathing.
– Ram Dass
No amount of self-improvement can make up for any lack of self-acceptance.
– Robert Holden
Self-acceptance is my refusal to be in an adversarial relationship to myself.
– Nathaniel Branden
Loving yourself does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion.
– Margo Anand
I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.
– Brene Brown
The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.
– Joseph Campbell
You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.
Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.
– Lucille Ball
It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine.
– Byron Katie
I was once afraid of people saying “Who does she think she is?” Now I have the courage to stand and say “This is who I am.”
– Oprah Winfrey
When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small. My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.
– Kim McMillen
Nothing I accept about myself can be used against me to diminish me.
– Audre Lord
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
– Steve Jobs