Emotions and Resilience

Tag Archives for " Emotions and Resilience "

Tools for Kids to Recover Resilience

Susan Kaiser Greenland and Tina Payne Bryson, are pioneers in the fields of teaching kids to use the tools of mindfulness and emotional regulation to help themselves calm down when distressed and cope with whatever is happening right in that moment. Michelle Kinder and Heather Bryant have pioneered the cutting-edge work of Momentous Institute, a […]

Take Time to Be Kind


Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of that is the beginning of wisdom. – Theodore Rubin The very afternoon I was writing last week’s post on Lost and Found I got distracted and left my debit card in the ATM machine near my office. I realized my mistake by the time I […]

Self-Compassion and Emotional Resilience

Kristen Neff, author of Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself and co-developer of the Mindful Self-Compassion training, developed this wonderful tool for offering ourselves self-compassion when we feel awkward about doing so. Cultivating Self-Compassion 1. Bring to mind a moment when it was relatively easy for you to “feel with” someone else’s heartache […]

Nine Steps to Forgiveness

Here’s one more fantastic practice from the new online resources of Greater Good in Action: Nine Steps to Forgiveness. I have written posts on forgiveness for Greater Good myself: How to Overcome Barriers to Forgiveness and How to Help a Narcissist to Forgive. The exercise below is from the work of my colleague Fred Luskin, […]

Unwavering Confidence

(Yet another post from Happify Daily, an extraordinary resource on the science of happiness. I’ll be teaching the exercise I’ve included below in finding your Compassionate Voice at the venues I’ve included below. May these tools be useful to you and yours.) The Seven Secrets of Unwavering Confidence We’ve all had confidence-eroding events in our […]

Elizabeth Gilbert on Tribal Shame

(Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love has written a long but right-on blog about Tribal Shame. She’s basing this post on the teachings of Dr. Mario Martinez; I’ve heard the Sounds True interview of him and Tami Simon that she references. I have taught so much about rewiring toxic shame; it’s terrific to have […]

How to Help a Narcissist to Forgive

(This post on narcissism and forgiveness was posted last week by the Greater Good Science Center at U.C. Berkeley. Click here for original post. Doing the research to write the article taught me a lot; forgiveness is not always easy. Yet I experienced a moment of being forgiven just a few days ago that taught […]

Self-Compassion Is a More Powerful Motivator than Self-Criticism

Today’s accompanying Resource for Recovering Resilience – 8 Ways to Stay Motivated to Meet Your Goals – offers research to demonstrate that self-compassion – being kind to ourselves in moments of challenge or difficulty – gives us the strength to face our fears, both real and imagined. Even in moments of failure, people who practice […]

Hugging is a Handshake from the Heart

(As you receive this post in your inbox, I will be teaching many of these same tools, based on much the same research, at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington, D.C. in a workshop “The Art and Science of Brain Care.” Re-posted from Happify Daily, a great online resource for recovering resilience. Enjoy the learning; enjoy the […]

How a Challenging Past Can Lead to a Happier Present

(The Greater Good Science Center at University of California, Berkeley, posted my article on February 23, 2015. Here it is in its entirety. May you find it useful.) “That which does not kill us outright makes us stronger,” wrote Friedrich Nietzsche more than 100 years ago. As a psychotherapist for 20 years, I’ve seen clients bear this […]

Wisdom & inspiration direct to your inbox