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Tired of Your Inner Critic? – Here’s How to Retire It
I have just about had it with my inner critic – the irritating self-critical remarks I hear so often when I’m just trying to live my life – “Oops, that wasn’t very smart, was it?” “Are you kidding? Now they’ll really know you don’t know what you’re doing.” Maybe you have an inner critic, too. […]
Using the Inner Protector to Calm the Inner Critic
I often teach about retiring (re-wiring) the inner critic, in these posts and in workshops everywhere. And I often re-post, with permission, the Just One Thing e-newsletters of my colleague and friend Rick Hanson, because Rick can present deep and practical wisdom in such clear and immediately useful ways. Here’s Rick’s latest on using […]
I’m Hiding, Please See Me: Unmasking Shame
Now in week #3 of my August 2020 Sabbatical-Sort Of, I’m still meeting with clients, and last week one very hard-working client sent me the article I’m Hiding, Please See Me: Unmasking Shame by Dr. Nikki Rollo. It’s excellent. I’ve written and taught passionately for more than a decade about the power of shame to […]
The Yin-Yang of Mindful Self-Compassion
As we learned in this interview with Chris Germer, mindful self-compassion gives us permission to ask “What do I need?” Here’s a practice for offering comfort and care from Resilience. Recovering from a Shame Attack 1. The instant you recognize the disturbance in the force field that is the signal of distress or upset, place […]
Dialogue with the Inner Critic
When we hear too many negative messages about ourselves, from too young an age, for too long of a time, we’re vulnerable to internalizing those voices, hearing themselves inside our own heads, as a well-practiced annoying inner critic. [See the May 2018 e-newsletter “The Most Powerful Derailer of Our Resilience.”) “You’re really pretty inept, you […]
The Most Powerful Derailer of Our Resilience.
I’ll be teaching “Resilience: Healing from Loss and Trauma with Compassion, Clarity and Courage” on June 11, part of a comprehensive online Healing Trauma Summit sponsored by Sounds True, June 4-13, 2018. In that presentation I suggest that certainly one of the most powerful derailers of our resilience, if not the most powerful, is shame. […]
Powerful Tools to Reverse Toxic Shame
I have been teaching tools to reverse toxic shame forever. In my book Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being, in every workshop I teach everywhere, in posts and article like “The Power of Mindful Empathy to Heal Toxic Shame.” The well-respected shame researcher Brene Brown says: Shame is the intensely painful […]
The Power of Mindful Empathy To Heal Toxic Shame
© Linda Graham, MFT 2010 This article was published as part of the Wise Brain Bulletin, Volume 4.1. Download the complete issue as a PDF I want to explore how Mindful Empathy can help us hold and heal the sense of failure, rejection, and shame that catches us in the suffering of the belief that […]