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Getting In Touch with Your Inner Critic

The excerpt and exercise below on working with your inner critic are from John Prendergast’s beautifully written new book, In Touch: How to Tune in to the Inner Guidance of Your Body and Trust Yourself. John is an experienced psychotherapist and wise spiritual teacher in the San Francisco Bay Area. In Touch offers state-of-the-art explorations […]

Resilient Leadership

Exercise: Creating Options, Discerning Choices, and Choosing Wisely (from Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience, Chapter 18) 1. Assess what is happening as clearly as you can. This includes getting all the facts about the situation you are being asked to cope with; getting expert opinions and perspectives from competent, resilient others; seeing […]

Self-Compassion Is a More Powerful Motivator than Self-Criticism

Today’s accompanying Resource for Recovering Resilience – 8 Ways to Stay Motivated to Meet Your Goals – offers research to demonstrate that self-compassion – being kind to ourselves in moments of challenge or difficulty – gives us the strength to face our fears, both real and imagined. Even in moments of failure, people who practice […]

Simple Self-Care When Life Gets Hard

I had the privilege and deep joy of spending time with Ashley Bush Davis and Elisha Goldstein, among many others, at the 2015 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium last weekend. Both have new books that offer simple but effective tools for managing stress, anxiety, depression, etc. when life gets hard. Simple Self-Care for Therapists: Restorative Practices to […]

Clearing the Way for Positive Neuroplasticity

Several clients last week brought in an excellent article sub-titled “Clearing the Way for Positive Neuroplasticity,” exploring how experiences we might not even think of as trauma – freezing in an argument with a spouse, feeling shamed in front of a boss, “losing it” when something we hoped for falls through – can derail the […]

How a Challenging Past Can Lead to a Happier Present

(The Greater Good Science Center at University of California, Berkeley, posted my article on February 23, 2015. Here it is in its entirety. May you find it useful.) “That which does not kill us outright makes us stronger,” wrote Friedrich Nietzsche more than 100 years ago. As a psychotherapist for 20 years, I’ve seen clients bear this […]

Be Super Resilient This Year

(This article was published in the January 2015 issue of Complete Well-Being, India’s leading magazine on wellness. It was a joy to write the article, and a joy to share it with you now.) Adversity is a given and strikes everyone from time to time; it’s how you handle it that really counts. Unfortunately we […]

Recognizing Unexpected Gifts on Our Path

My friend Dave Richo is a well-respected, even beloved, teacher and author of 15 books all pertaining in one way or another to resilience. Best known are How to Be an Adult in Relationships: Five Keys to Mindful Loving and The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them. Dave’s […]

Blessed with a Brain Tumor

It’s important to me that the resources offered here truly help us become more resilient – able to meet even the most difficult challenges of our lives with courage, compassion, and equanimity. Will Pye’s Blessed with a Brain Tumor: Realizing It’s All Gift and Learning to Receive is just such a resource. A dedicated student […]

Looking in the Mirror with Kindness

Mindful magazine has become quite a nifty resource for all kinds of mindfulness practices – for personal growth and self-transformation, for health and well-being, for creating social change, for revolutions in the practice of business and government. The October 2014 issue includes the exercise below in using mindfulness to antidote moments of self-criticism and self-judgment. I […]

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