Relationship Impasses
A Warm Bath of Oxytocin at the 2022 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium
It all started when editor Rich Simon suggested I write an article for the Psychotherapy Networker magazine in 2009. I was “nobody” then; Rich worked we me for months, “simonizing” […]
End the BASHing – Blame, Anger, Shame, Helplessness – in your Most Important Relationships
A client of mine came up with an acronym last week that was so very helpful to her in catching the anger-shame-blame behaviors she could easily get into, about herself, […]
Beyond the Betrayal
Betrayal – the breaking of trust – can rock our sense of who we are and our convictions of what’s true in our world more than anything else in human […]
Be Aware of the Fuckery
“I’m aware of the fuckery in my family.” A client began her session with that phrase last week. I was delighted with the term. We had spent months helping her […]
Pruning Not-So-Healthy Relationships
I emphasize the necessity of cultivating nourishing, healthy relationships to support our resilience – a lot. [see Make Sure Good Friends Are Near] All true, very important. Sometimes, just as […]
The Triangle of Victim, Rescuer, Persecutor – What It Is and How to Get Out.
Stephen Karpman, M.D., developed his “drama triangle” – victim, rescuer, persecutor – almost 40 years ago, and I find it’s just as relevant – and just as new to many […]