Tag Archives for " Self-Compassion "

Human Psyche as Cat Litter Box

I won’t out the client who came up with this metaphor last week – of the human psyche as a cat litter box.  But I’ve been a psychotherapist for a quarter of a century now, and an owner of several generations of cats for almost as long, and I can fully appreciate the complexity and […]

How to Be Affected but Not Infected

Phillip Moffitt, guiding teacher of teachers at Spirit Rock Meditation Center, used to teach tools to “be affected but not infected,” mostly in the context of being empathic and compassionate with other people but not being overwhelmed by their emotions or traumas. The practice could apply to being aware and accepting of our own experiences […]

The Yin-Yang of Mindful Self-Compassion

Chris Germer

As we learned in this interview with Chris Germer, mindful self-compassion gives us permission to ask “What do I need?” Here’s a practice for offering comfort and care from Resilience. Recovering from a Shame Attack 1. The instant you recognize the disturbance in the force field that is the signal of distress or upset, place […]

The Roots of Resilience

This month’s posts focus on relational intelligence from within, offering practices to strengthen the inner secure base of resilience that allows you to fully accept, appreciate, and love yourself.  That allows you to engage with the world, take risks, and deal with the bumps and bruises of life more resiliently. The roots of resilience are […]

Self Compassion More Powerful than Self-Esteem

“People who are compassionate toward their failings and imperfections experience greater well-being that those who repeatedly judge themselves. The feelings of security and net worth provided by self-compassion are also highly stable, kicking in precisely when self-esteem falls down.” This is the intriguing premise – and promise – of Kristin Neff’s book on Self-Compassion, based […]

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