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Just One Thing: Forgive Yourself

(Rick Hanson, my esteemed colleague who wrote the forward for Bouncing Back recently posted this Just One Thing post through the Greater Good Science Center at U.C. Berkeley. You can also find many, many techniques as easy to implement as this one on Rick online Foundations of Well-Being course. May this be useful to you and yours.) […]

Getting In Touch with Your Inner Critic

The excerpt and exercise below on working with your inner critic are from John Prendergast’s beautifully written new book, In Touch: How to Tune in to the Inner Guidance of Your Body and Trust Yourself. John is an experienced psychotherapist and wise spiritual teacher in the San Francisco Bay Area. In Touch offers state-of-the-art explorations […]

Nine Steps to Forgiveness

Here’s one more fantastic practice from the new online resources of Greater Good in Action: Nine Steps to Forgiveness. I have written posts on forgiveness for Greater Good myself: How to Overcome Barriers to Forgiveness and How to Help a Narcissist to Forgive. The exercise below is from the work of my colleague Fred Luskin, […]

Resilient Leadership

Exercise: Creating Options, Discerning Choices, and Choosing Wisely (from Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience, Chapter 18) 1. Assess what is happening as clearly as you can. This includes getting all the facts about the situation you are being asked to cope with; getting expert opinions and perspectives from competent, resilient others; seeing […]

Post-Traumatic Growth Applied

Creating a Circle of Support We may seek refuge among good friends, people we can trust to not judge or disdain us when we become emotionally unglued or our thinking becomes unhinged: people who can simply be with us until we regroup and are ready to face the world again. These are people whose own […]

Elizabeth Gilbert on Tribal Shame

(Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love has written a long but right-on blog about Tribal Shame. She’s basing this post on the teachings of Dr. Mario Martinez; I’ve heard the Sounds True interview of him and Tami Simon that she references. I have taught so much about rewiring toxic shame; it’s terrific to have […]

How to Help a Narcissist to Forgive

(This post on narcissism and forgiveness was posted last week by the Greater Good Science Center at U.C. Berkeley. Click here for original post. Doing the research to write the article taught me a lot; forgiveness is not always easy. Yet I experienced a moment of being forgiven just a few days ago that taught […]

Self-Compassion Is a More Powerful Motivator than Self-Criticism

Today’s accompanying Resource for Recovering Resilience – 8 Ways to Stay Motivated to Meet Your Goals – offers research to demonstrate that self-compassion – being kind to ourselves in moments of challenge or difficulty – gives us the strength to face our fears, both real and imagined. Even in moments of failure, people who practice […]

Hugging is a Handshake from the Heart

(As you receive this post in your inbox, I will be teaching many of these same tools, based on much the same research, at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington, D.C. in a workshop “The Art and Science of Brain Care.” Re-posted from Happify Daily, a great online resource for recovering resilience. Enjoy the learning; enjoy the […]

How a Challenging Past Can Lead to a Happier Present

(The Greater Good Science Center at University of California, Berkeley, posted my article on February 23, 2015. Here it is in its entirety. May you find it useful.) “That which does not kill us outright makes us stronger,” wrote Friedrich Nietzsche more than 100 years ago. As a psychotherapist for 20 years, I’ve seen clients bear this […]

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