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The Resilience Toolkit: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty and Even Disaster

The Resilience Toolkit: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty and Even Disaster

Resilience is the learned capacity to cope with any level of adversity, from a series of small annoyances to the struggles and sorrows that break our hearts to the utter disasters that change our lives forever.  

Resilience is essential for surviving and thriving in a world full of troubles and tragedies, and it is completely trainable and recoverable - when we know how.

More than 130 evidenced-based tools to help you cope with anything, anything at all.

A step-by-step process to strengthen the foundations of resilience:

Somatic Intelligence: body-based tools to restore our baseline physiological equilibrium, and inner sense of safety, the range of resilience that primes the brain’s neuroplasticity for learning and growth.

Emotional Intelligence:  managing the full range of emotions, empathizing with and managing reactions to other people’s emotions, cultivate practices to antidote the innate negativity bias of the brain and reliable shift the functioning of the brain out of reactivity and contraction into more openness, receptivity. Not just to feel better but to do better.

Relational Intelligence within Oneself:  Using self-awareness and self-acceptance practices to foster inner capacities of response flexibility and claim and inner secure base of resilience, the “home base” of a wise, trustworthy, courageous self.

Relational Intelligence with Others:  learning how to engage with other people, in both intimate and social relationships, in ways that allow you to trust and connect with them as refuges and resources of resilience.

Reflective Intelligence: cultivating the mindful awareness that allows us to see clearly what’s happening (and our reactions to what’s happening) shift perspectives, rewire habitual thought patterns that block response flexibility , discern options and make wise choices.

Available September 15, 2018 in bookstores and can be pre-ordered online from

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LINDA GRAHAM, MFT is an experienced psychotherapist, coach, and trainer in the recovery of resilience. She integrates practices of mindfulness, relational psychology, and modern neuroscience in her international trainings, workshops and conferences.

Praise for The Resilience Toolkit

Rick Hanson Buddha's Brain Hardwiring Happiness

Written with enormous warmth infused with decades of clinical experience and drawing on cutting edge neuroscience, this book is a masterpiece. It offers effective methods for dealing with the full range of challenges from everyday stresses to the most serious losses and traumas. Its many exercises, examples, and applications are organized within an overall framework that is creative and brilliant. Wow.

- Rick Hanson, author of Buddha's Brain and Hardwiring Happiness, from the foreword to Bouncing Back

Linda Graham’s pioneering expertise on cultivating resilience has transformed countless lives.  Now, in The Resilience Toolkit, she has compiled a clearly sequenced set of best practices that can guide us in finding freedom in the midst of life’s greatest challenges.  Highly recommended!

- Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge

Chris Germer

In this generous book, Linda Graham offers the reader a cornucopia of practices—133 in all—to help people bounce back from hardship and cultivate emotional strength.  She clearly understands the difference between a wobble and a wallop and has organized the practices to sensitively address diverse needs.  Highly recommended for anyone going through a tough time, and for those who care about them.

- Chris Germer, PhD, author of Mindful Self-Compassion and co-developer of Mindful Self-Compassion protocol

christine carter press photo 2014, raising happiness. please give photo credit to photographer

Even though we want life to be comfortable and pleasurable — and even though we often expect it to be so — life is often difficult, disappointing, and painful. (Darn it!) When things don't go our way, we need specific skills and strategies to regain our balance, and to keep ourselves from spiraling downward. This book is an essential reference and guide to developing those skills, in ourselves, but also in our kids (for parents) and clients (for coaches and therapists).

Christine Carter, PhD, author of Raising Happiness and The Sweet Spot

Ron Siegel

Linda Graham’s years of experience and deep understanding as a psychotherapist and teacher shine through as she offers effective, easy-to-use tools to not only survive, but to flourish during difficult times.

- Ronald D. Siegel, Psy.D., Assistant Professor of Psychology, Harvard Medical School, Author, The Mindfulness Solution: Everyday Practices for Everyday Problems

James Baraz Awakening Joy

The Resilience Toolkit is a truly comprehensive guidebook that shows you that you have everything inside you to skillfully meet all of life's challenges great or small with a wise, kind heart.

In her clear, well-researched style filled with user-friendly exercises and practices, Linda Graham reveals how we can train our brain, our body and our heart to access our intuitive wisdom to not only get through the tough times but to grow and become more conscious in the process.

- James Baraz, coauthor of Awakening Joy​

Jonah Paquette

More than any book I’ve encountered, The Resilience Toolkit offers us the necessary tools to respond effectively to life’s challenges and strengthen the vital skill of resilience. Written with both expertise and immense compassion, Linda Graham has given the field and her readers an immense gift with this book.

-Jonah Paquette, Psy.D. – Author of Real Happiness: Proven Paths for Contentment, Peace & Well-Being and The Happiness Toolbox

Laura Markham

In this empowering book, Graham walks you step-by-step through exercises that gradually rewire your brain and transform your sense of well-being. Practical and hopeful, this is a book that can change your life.

- Laura Markham, Ph.D., Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids

Dave Richo

Beautifully combining mindfulness and neuroscience, Linda Graham has crafted what we always wanted: a toolkit for sane serene living.

-David Richo PhD: Author of How to be an Adult in Relationships

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“We all want and need to be resilient; the question is how do we become more so? Linda Graham’s The Resilience Tool Kit guides us with wisdom, kindness and gentleness through a rich and detailed process that is sure to not only enhance our resilience, but also to enhance our vitality and well-being. Make sure to take advantage of this remarkable theoretical and practical resource!” — Anat Baniel, founder of Anat Baniel Method®NeuroMovement® and author of best-selling Move Into Life- NeuroMovement for Lifelong vitality and Kids Beyond Limits.

"The Resilience Toolkit is a truly comprehensive guidebook that shows you that you have everything inside you to skillfully meet all of life's challenges great or small with a wise, kind heart. In her clear, well-researched style filled with user-friendly exercises and practices, Linda Graham reveals how we can train our brain, our body and our heart to access our intuitive wisdom to not only get through the tough times but to grow and become more conscious in the process. A real gem!" — James Baraz, author of Awakening Joy:10 Steps to Happiness and co-founding teacher of Spirit Rock Meditation Center, Woodacre, CA

"Linda Graham has created a beautifully organised book with an array of 130 carefully constructed exercises to change the way our brains operate. Reading the book will help - but practicing the exercises is what will really set this book apart from the rest." — James Bennett-Levy, Professor of Mental Health and Psychological Wellbeing University of Sydney

"Toolkit" is too modest a title for this wonderfully comprehensive, hugely informative, engagingly written book. "Warehouse" would be more apt. Linda Graham's voice--personal, knowledgeable, confident and inspiring--kept me reading as if it were more like a novel than a textbook." — Sylvia Boorstein, PhD, author of Happiness is An Inside Job

"Linda Graham’s pioneering expertise on cultivating resilience has transformed countless lives. Now, in The Resilience Toolkit, she has compiled a clearly sequenced set of best practices that can guide us in finding freedom in the midst of life’s greatest challenges. Highly recommended!" — Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge

"What a treasure trove of useful and powerful practices to help us thrive! Linda Graham’s wise and practical approach to strengthening resilience guides us to recovery and renewed joy. Well organized and simple to learn, The Resilience Toolkit offers a remarkably powerful selection of tools for creating and enhancing our ability to navigate life stresses -- from minor inconveniences to major tragedies." — Ashley Davis Bush, LICSW, author of Simple Self-Care for Therapists and The Little Book of Inner Peace

“Even though we want life to be comfortable and pleasurable — and even though we often expect it to be so — life is often difficult, disappointing, and painful. (Darn it!) When things don't go our way, we need specific skills and strategies to regain our balance, and to keep ourselves from spiraling downward. This book is an essential reference and guide to developing those skills, in ourselves, but also in our kids (for parents) and clients (for coaches and therapists).” — Christine Carter, PhD, author of Raising Happiness & The Sweet Spot: How to Accomplish More by Doing Less

"In this powerful book Linda shares remarkable insights, practical tools and essential skills to learn how to navigate life's challenges. She draws on a wealth of research, personal wisdom and heartfelt compassion from her work as a psychotherapist to show how we can all develop this much needed quality of resilience. I could think of no better guide for this important work." — Mark Coleman>

"'Resilience' is a powerful concept because it refers to our underlying capacity to grow our ability to meet challenging times with grace and skill. It’s pure denial to say, 'Don’t worry, nothing bad will ever happen.' We need skills for coming back from hard times, and that’s what this book is all about. So many of us in the world today struggle to find emotional balance and to heal the web of our human connections in the face of increasing anxiety and disorder. This book, with its astonishingly wide range of resources, could not have come at a better time. Linda Graham is the ideal guide to cultivating resilience, a calm wise voice speaking from the interface of science and compassion. This 'toolkit' has so many valuable tools that it is really more of a tool library!" — Ann Weiser Cornell, PhD, CEO of Focusing Resources, author of The Power of Focusing

“Linda Graham combines her wealth of knowledge of ancient practices and neuroscience with years of clinical work to create a masterful guide to building flexibility and stability — qualities essential to resilience. The Resilience Toolkit offers a rich array of practices to navigate both the ordinary and extraordinary challenges of being human. Linda Graham’s wisdom in crafting a pathway to resilience is woven into every page. I encourage you to take the journey with her.” — Deb Dana author of The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy

“In this engaging and empowering book, Linda Graham teaches us how to respond to life's inevitable challenges with strength, calm, and grace. Highly recommended." — Tim Desmond, author of Self-Compassion in Psychotherapy and The Self-Compassion Skills Workbook

"The Resilient Toolkit is an excellent addition to the growing field of resilience principles and practices. Linda Graham has written an extremely practical, grounded book that will serve both practitioners and lay people alike. I highly recommended it as one of the most thorough books on the subject." — Daniel Ellenberg, PhD, Rewire Leadership Institute

"Linda’s warmth and compassion shines through in this wonderful and informative guide to strengthening resiliency. She seamlessly weaves neuroscience into creative, easy to follow exercises designed to enhance emotional intelligence, neuroplasticity, social engagement, gratitude, and compassionate self-awareness. Clinicians and clients alike will greatly benefit from tools that include guided imagery, somatic resourcing, mindful meditations, journaling, and reconnecting with nature. I highly recommend this uplifting and inspiring guide! It’s a beautiful contribution to the self- help genre and the mental health field." — Lisa Ferentz, psychotherapist specializing in trauma, a clinical consultant, educator and author of Finding Your Ruby Slippers: Transformative Life Lessons From the Therapist’s Couch

"Most of us face the challenges that life brings our way by just trying our best to get through. But, what would our lives be like if we could not simply survive in the face of adversity but actually thrive? In this amazing synthesis of cutting-edge science, practical wisdom, and compassionate guidance, master teacher Linda Graham, shows us how to do just that. Join her on a comprehensive journey of personal transformation that will rewire your brain, restore your well-being, and revitalize your life. No doubt you will be all the better for it." — Ronald J. Frederick, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of Living Like You Mean It

"In The Resilience Toolkit Linda Graham walks us skillfully to the edges of our struggles, where resilience is patiently waiting if only we know the path. This book shows us the way, as Linda brilliantly offers practical tips and creative ideas to re-wire our brains for inner calm and wise action. This toolkit is a resource I will come back to over and over again for my personal life and work projects." — Michelle Gale, author of Mindful Parenting in a Messy World

"In this generous book, Linda Graham offers the reader a cornucopia of practices—133 in all—to help people bounce back from hardship and cultivate emotional strength. She clearly understands the difference between a wobble and a wallop and has organized the practices to sensitively address diverse needs. Highly recommended for anyone going through a tough time, and for those who care about them." — Christopher Germer, PhD, lecturer (part-time), Harvard Medical School, author, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion and co-developer, Mindful Self-Compassion training

"If you want the practical know-how to strengthen your ability to uncover resilience in any situation, I recommend diving into The Resilience Toolkit! Take your time with this, soak in Linda Graham's practical strategies and wisdom, make it a part of your life!" — Elisha Goldstein, PhD, creator of A Course in Mindful Living

"With humor and intelligence, Linda Graham masterfully weaves neuroscience, psychology, and contemplative teachings together to create a wise and immensely practical set of tools for everyday people to meet adversity with wisdom and compassion." — Susan Kaiser Greenland, author,Mindful Games and The Mindful Child

"Written with enormous warmth infused with decades of clinical experience and drawing on cutting edge neuroscience, this book is a masterpiece. It offers effective methods for dealing with the full range of challenges from everyday stresses to the most serious losses and traumas. Its many exercises, examples, and applications are organized within an overall framework that is creative and brilliant. Wow." — Rick Hanson, PhD, author of Hardwiring Happiness, Buddha’s Brain, and Resilient

"Most of us think of resilience as something we either have, or we don’t. But in The Resilience Toolkit, Linda Graham uses the latest research to create an evidence-based brain-training program that can build and protect anyone’s well-being and resilience -- for the rest of your life. In this empowering book, Graham walks you step-by-step through exercises that gradually rewire your brain and transform your sense of well-being. Practical and hopeful, this is a book that can change your life." — Laura Markham, Ph.D, author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids

"I offer a deep bow of gratitude to Linda Graham, for her book, The Resilience Toolkit, that provides us with an array of simple, yet powerful experiential tools for growing and strengthening inner resilience, our innate ability to skillfully recognize, respond to, and bounce back from whatever life throws at us. Our ability to experience joy, love, and well-being depends upon our possessing a robust foundation of resilient responses to the stressors we encounter throughout life. Linda offers us such a guidebook for life, that we should all have in our hands, which I now look forward to passing on to all my friends, students, and clients." — Richard Miller, PhD, author of iRest Meditation: Restorative Practices for Health, Resiliency, and Well-Being

"This book draws from a wide variety of empirically proven programs to offer a smorgasbord of ways to cope with life’s difficulties. With over ten dozen practices and exercises, this book has what you need when things get tough all in one convenient toolkit. You need look no further to find the help you need to cope." — Kristin Neff, author of Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself and co-author of The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook

"Though we cannot control what happens to us, we can learn to respond in a healthier, more adaptive way. Perhaps more than any book I’ve encountered, The Resilience Toolkit offers us the necessary tools to respond effectively to life’s challenges and strengthen the vital skill of resilience. With a treasure trove of practical exercises (130 in all!), this gem of a book provides us with a step-by-step guide to bouncing back from life’s struggles and creating lasting change. Written with both expertise and immense compassion, Linda Graham has given the field and her readers an immense gift with this book." — Jonah Paquette, Psy.D., author of Real Happiness: Proven Paths for Contentment, Peace & Well-Being and The Happiness Toolbox

"What I especially love about this book is the kindly and “You can do this!” way Linda speaks to us readers. She shows us that rich resources of resilience are inside us and that we can easily learn to tap them using her exercises. Beautifully combining mindfulness and neuroscience, Linda Graham has crafted what we always wanted: a toolkit for sane serene living." — David Richo, PhD, author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships

"What can we do when overwhelmed by life’s challenges? This clear, comprehensive guide offers practical answers. It’s chock full of proven practices from spiritual, psychotherapeutic, and scientific traditions that anyone can use to respond effectively to the challenges of modern life. Linda Graham’s years of experience and deep understanding as a psychotherapist and teacher shine through as she offers effective, easy-to-use tools to not only survive, but to flourish during difficult times." — Ronald D. Siegel, PsyD, assistant clinical professor of psychology at Harvard Medical School and author of The Mindfulness Solution: Everyday Practices for Everyday Problems

"With The Resilience Toolkit, Linda Graham has surpassed herself: Bouncing Back—Linda’s first book—was superb, and this one is even better. It is self-help with the potential to really help. It also manages to be a page-turner for those of us who feel an urgency to better understand and navigate the human condition. Integrating the latest findings of contemporary psychology and neuroscience while drawing as well on the wisdom traditions of the East, The Resilience Toolkit offers the reader practical guidance, illumination, and inspiration. Perhaps what I most appreciate among the book’s many virtues is its utterly convincing optimism about our capacity as human beings to confront suffering and, in the process, to successfully change ourselves for the better." — David Wallin, PhD, author of Attachment in Psychotherapy

"A powerful and practical path for empowering your brain, body and spirit to bounce back from any challenges in your past, present or future." — Chris Willard

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