Training in Bouncing Back for East Coast Clinicians

Training in Bouncing Back for East Coast Clinicians

I’ll be training psychotherapists in Bouncing Back: Rewiring the Brain for Resilience and Well-Being in two workshops on the East Coast in May and July, 2015, and teaching the exercise below, Befriending Yourself, as a valuable way for clients to bring the many disparate, sometimes conflicting, parts of themselves into a more integrated whole self.

Leading Edge Seminars, Toronto, Ontario, Canada, May 19-20, 2015, 9:30am-4:30pm

Cape Cod Institute, Cape Cod, MA, July 27-31, 2015, 9am-12:15pm

* Dealing effectively with challenges and crises in life is the core of resilience and well-being.

* Helping clients develop flexible and adaptive strategies for coping with everyday disappointments and extraordinary disasters is the heart of the therapeutic process.

* Clients learn to harness the brain’s own mechanisms of change to rewire coping strategies that are defensive, dysfunctional, and blocking of growth, and to encode new more flexible patterns of response.

Modern neuroscience is teaching us how to use the brain’s innate neuroplasticity to rewire coping behaviors, even when they are seemingly “stuck” and intractable. Clinicians will learn through didactics, experiential exercises, and group discussions, which tools and techniques of brain change best help clients use their own self-directed neuroplasticity reverse the impact of stress and trauma, regulate surges of emotions to come out of anxiety, depression, grief, loneliness, guilt and shame, deepen the self-compassion and empathy that connect them to their inner resources, overcome resistance and strengthen the resonant relationships that foster the perseverance that develops resilience, and shift their perspectives through mindful awareness and reflection to discern options and make wise choices.

Participants will learn to apply these tools and techniques, which underlie the therapeutic modalities they are already familiar with – Internal Family Systems, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, AEDP. DBT, EFT – to help clients strengthen the 6 C’s of Coping: Calm, Compassion, Clarity, Connections, Competence and Courage and recover the natural resilience that supports well-being and flourishing. Clinicians will also learn to apply these tools to their own brain care as self-care to avoid compassion fatigue and burnout.

Befriending Yourself by Accepting the Many Parts of Yourself

1. Settle comfortably in your seat. Allow your eyes to gently close. Focus your attention on your breathing. Rest comfortably in the awareness of simply being.

2. When you’re ready, imagine you are outside a theater. Imagine the building, the doors, the posters outside. Walk up to one of the doors, open it, and walk into the lobby. Open another door and walk into the empty theater. Walk all the way down to the first or second row and take a seat in the center of the row. An empty stage lies in front of you. All is quiet.

3. Now imagine that the first figure to come out on the stage is your wiser self, standing in the center. This figure that represents all the qualities you aspire to: wisdom, strength, courage, compassion, competence, acceptance.

4. Now imagine other characters coming on to the stage one by one. Each of these imaginary characters embodies a particular quality in yourself. These characters could be people you know, yourself at a different age, people you know from the movies or history or literature, animals, or cartoon characters.

The first character embodies a quality in yourself that you really, really like. Take a moment to let that character take the stage and remember it (perhaps make a note).

A second character comes on stage embodying another positive quality in yourself. Again let that character materialize on the stage and remember it.

A third character comes on stage embodying yet another positive quality about yourself. Let the character materialize, and remember it.

Look carefully at these three characters, which embody three different, positive qualities in yourself, standing with your wiser self. Take a moment to notice and remember them all.

Now bring a fourth character to the stage that embodies a quality in yourself that you really don’t like all that much. In fact, you wish it weren’t part of you, but you know it is. Let this character materialize and take a moment to remember it.

Bring on a fifth character that embodies another negative quality in you.

Bring on one last character embodying just one more negative quality in yourself.

Take a moment to materialize all these characters, remember them, jot them down.

5. Now you have on stage your wiser self, three characters embodying positive qualities, and three characters embodying negative qualities. Ask each character in turn what special gift they bring to you by being part of you: ask the positive ones first, then the negative ones. As you listen to their responses, notice what lessons you learn from their being a part of you. Each one has some wisdom or learning to offer.

6. Next, ask your wiser self what gifts and lessons these parts have to offer you. Listen carefully for the answers.

7. Briefly thank each character for coming to be with you. Watch as they leave the stage one by one, the wiser self last. Then imagine yourself getting up out of your seat and walking back up the aisle, through the lobby and back outside the theater. Turn around to look at the theater where all this happened. Then slowly come to awareness again of sitting quietly, and when you’re ready, open your eyes.

8. Take a moment to remember and embrace the lessons of each of these six characters, especially the negative ones: each is an integral part of you, essential to your wholeness.

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